Thursday, May 26, 2011
One year ago....
Monday, April 25, 2011
The Ride Home
Rejoice in the Lord always; again I will say, rejoice!
Let your gentle spirit be known to all men. The Lord is near.
Be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God.
And the peace of God, which surpasses all comprehension, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.
It calmed my spirit instantly. I know that it is something that is hard to share, or even comprehend, but I cannot explain to you the peace that I and my family shared throughout this experience. From the moment I found out what had happened till we had laid my father to rest, I had a huge sense of peace and comfort that everything was going to be OK. Now I don;t mean OK like everything was going to be fine and dandy and we weren't going to have any pain and suffering, but OK in the sense that I knew God was in complete control of the situation.
I remember telling my mom when we were first heading home that this didn't surprise God. God had known this was going to happen before time began. God was in control and this was all in His plan. It may not be what we desired or wanted, but it was God's will.
The second thing I was drawn to in my bible was the book of Job. Particularly the last few chapters where God is giving an account of himself (Job 38).
First off, the image we get of God is amazing. If you ever need reminding of the power of God or maybe have not even thought about it, read through these scriptures they will humble you fast.
I began to think, here was Job, someone who was probably the most justified in his questioning of God, and what does God reply to him? "Where were you when I laid the foundation of the earth?"
God basically goes on to prove his power and worthiness. And I began to think about my own situation and what my reaction would be.
Someone in my situation would often ask why, and very few people would rebuke them. I think it is in our human nature to want to know why and the reasoning behind everything, but that is not the way God is.
God does not have to nor need to give an answer as to why He does what He does. He's God.
So I began to resolve in my heart that I would not question God in this. That's not to say that those thoughts have not come up, but I do not entertain or dwell on them.
I have to say that I believe this is the best thing I could have done. By not dwelling on the questions that I will never have an answer to, I have had more time to cling to the truth and rock of God. It is almost refreshing and liberating to release myself of those questions. To not be bogged down by them.
God does not have to answer me, and that is OK. I trust that He is in control, that this is His will for my life, and that ultimately He will be glorified.
After reading some more and praying I felt at peace and was able to go to sleep. The next morning mom and I got up to head home.
I grabbed a shirt and put it on and almost laughed as I saw myself in the mirror.
I had picked up and put on my "Defining Moments" shirt from camp from just a week earlier.
I commented to mom on the irony of how appropriate the shirt was. I may have cried too. Obviously this is not what I wanted to be happening, but it was, and it was a defining moment in my life for sure.
Thursday, January 20, 2011
My New Favorite Song
Tuesday, September 28, 2010
That Thursday
I had just gotten home from work that Thursday and was sitting in my big comfy chair talking to Katie and Caleb. This summer my best friend Katie got to live with me and of course her fiancé (boyfriend at the time) was there constantly. We became the three best friends over the summer, doing practically everything together. We had such a great time, most of which was spent in my living room with them on the couch and me in that chair.
Not long after crashing in my normal spot Mrs. R started texting me asking how my day was. After just a small exchange of normal chit chat, she asked me to come over. I thought her texts seemed a little strange, but I didn’t think too much about it. She said she wanted to have me over for dinner and to get there as soon as possible. So I started over to the R’s house oblivious to the fact that I was beginning the descent into the lowest point of our family’s lives.
The R’s are very special people to me. I have attended church with them for the past 2 and ½ ish years. However they have become much more to me than just someone I say hi to on Sunday’s and Wednesday’s, they’ve become my family here. It all started one outstandingly horrible winter over a year ago. The power had been knocked out at our school and they told us we had to leave. Graciously the R’s opened up their house to me and a fellow friend from school for 10 days. Since then, they have been a huge part of my life.
I’ve been on trips with them and served with them, spent Easter, Thanksgiving and Christmas Eve at their house with their family, moved in for a little while and have played Phase 10 until 1 am until I couldn’t keep my eyes open any more. I hold them very dearly in my heart. I love, respect, honor, and adore them. If I need help, advice or guidance, I turn to them.
The Monday before all of this happened I had gone to their house for dinner to discuss some important matters that were arising. I had been informed that the personal committee at church wanted to interview me to be the possible Interim Youth Minister. I was very humbled by this prospect. I had been working with the youth for two years and loved every minute of it. The Lord had truly given me a heart for them and the thought of serving them as their leader was overwhelming.
Of course I immediately wanted to do it, but also wanted to make sure this was the Lord’s will and not my desire. So I met with the R’s to see what they thought, if they approved, and if they believed I could do it. We talked for hours. Eventually it was so late, I just spent the night at their house.
I actually thought this was the reason that the R’s wanted me to come over. The night before I had my interview with the Personal Committee and they all agreed that they wanted me to serve as the Interim and that they were moving forward in the process of hiring me. The R’s knew the good news and as I was driving over I was under the assumption that this was going to be some type of celebratory dinner. I got a little choked up on the way over thinking about how blessed I was to have such a great church family and how the Lord was providing for and directing my life. Everything was perfect and it was God’s will and I couldn’t have been more ecstatic.
I pulled up to the house, parked in my normal spot and began walking towards the back door. When I got in the kitchen both Mrs.R and Mr.R were standing there. Mr. R wasn’t looking me in the face and I could tell something wasn’t right. Mrs.R told me that it wasn’t bad, but my dad was missing. Mom was on her way and would be there in 30 minutes or so to drive me home. The news was a shock. I didn’t know the full force of everything, I didn’t have all the back info, but I began breaking things down in my head. The night before after the meeting I had called my parents. I called mom and told her the great news. I asked to speak to dad, but she said he was out. Immediately I asked, “well, is it a good out, or a bad out?”
My dad had been struggling with severe depression for the last two years. He had a major accident that caused the chemical imbalance in his body to go haywire and he had really been down spiraling. Dad just going out wasn’t normal. If he was not at work then he was at home, my dad didn’t just go out. Mom said she didn’t know if it was good or bad, but she thought it was good.
Realizing this and the fact that Mrs.R told me that dad had been missing since Wednesday morning, I knew mom had lied to me. I was trying to think through everything, give or find some type of answer, but I couldn’t. I sat with the R’s until my mom called to say she was in. Then we got into their car and then we went to pick up mom from the airport.
When I saw her standing there I got out of the car and we held each other and began to cry.
All mom could say was that she was sorry.
Mrs. R offered to drive us home, but mom said it was fine. We planned to drive straight through to Ga. Mom didn’t want to leave my sister and brother home alone longer than she had to. She was afraid that they would find dad before she got back. Multiple times on the phone she told them not to go if the police department needed someone to come identify a body.
We drove to my apartment for me to pack up some things. We walked in the door and I saw Katie and Caleb there. I had texted her to make sure she didn’t leave because I had to talk to her. I just remember beginning to cry as I told her my dad was missing and I had to leave. The next few minutes were a blur. I had no clue what to pack, my room was a mess, and obviously my mind was overloaded. Katie and my mom helped me dig through my room and figure out what to take. I grabbed a few more random items and we were on the road.
Leaving Louisville I began to call certain people that needed to know I was leaving. The family I nannied for, Mrs. G from school, and some other people I can’t remember. I remember explaining over and over matter-of-fact-ly what was going on and thinking about how weird I sounded. It was like it wasn’t me talking. It was like a really bad movie that I was just observing, but it wasn’t, it was real and it was happening.
Monday, September 20, 2010
The Starting Point.
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